“Forgiveness is for your own mental healing. You will forgive because you feel compassion for yourself. Forgiveness is an act of self-love,” according to Don Miguel Ruiz author of The Mastery of Love.
We’ve all heard somewhere that forgiveness is healing for you rather than the person you are forgiving. For years, I held on to grudges against those who hurt me and thought I was hurting them by holding on to the emotional poison.
Boy was I wrong.
The emotional poison was hurting me. The other person moved on without any scratches. It took the death of my best friend to understand the importance of forgiveness.
When my best friend died, he left this Earth with an estranged relationship with his mother. They were never able to rekindled their relationship because neither one of them could forgive each other. I didn’t want to be like that anymore. It is not worth it especially when you never know when it’s your last day.
His death made me re-evaluate myself and how I interact with people. While I was grieving, I realized that holding on to grudges was pointless. I just loss my world and those grudges became minimal to me. I won’t say I immediately forgave everyone, but I started the process of releasing them to love. I started analyzing my relationships with my family, friends, and enemies. I lost the desire to be liked by many. I wanted to be loved by those who genuinely loved me and to release others in love. It was time to forgive those who hurt me because I did not want to leave this Earth with ill feelings towards anyone.
I wanted to be loved by those who genuinely
Merissa Hanley is on a mission to spread love and peace to the world with her own self-discovery. Through this blog, Merissa shares her trials, tribulations, and resources which led Merissa back to herself.