When current situations remind you subconsciously of a past event, you will be surprised to discover that the past situation is a haunting childhood memory. Insults and limitations spoken to me during my childhood led me to believe that I did not deserve the life I desired. Holding grudges became my defensive mechanism.
My grudges were feeding emotional poison to me because I didn’t know how to let go and forgive. I learned the truth when I had several sessions with a life coach. She was able to identify the behaviors I created because of the grudges held against people. She advised me that I would never be able to forgive anyone until I forgave myself.
It is significant to include yourself in the forgiving process when you do it because you must learn how to forgive yourself for harboring grudges or ill feelings toward another person. When you learn how to forgive yourself completely, you find it easy to forgive people you may not agree with. Remember you can never love someone more than you love yourself.
I stumbled upon the following method on Facebook. A young lady posted a video explaining the method and the effects of it. The steps were simple, and the words resonated with me, so I decided to utilize this method. After I completed the method, I felt a weight lift off my shoulders.
It is called Ho'oponopono. It is an ancient Hawaiian healing power. You repeat four simple steps. The person you are forgiving does not have to be present.
The steps are as follows:
1. Say I Love You then say your name or the person’s name.
2. Say I’m Sorry to yourself or the person you are forgiving.
3. Say Please Forgive Me following your name or their name.
– This is an important step because this is the step where you will state who you are
forgiving. It can be yourself or someone else.
4. Say Thank You following your name or their name.
This method works best in front of a mirror. Looking at your reflection allows you to feel the power of the words. This is just a suggestion. Please use any forgiveness method that fits you.
For EverLasting Revelation helps women journey through motherhood with God and purpose.
Please share your thoughts how you have forgiven others:
What steps have you taken to forgive a love one?
Which step do you find the hardest to take?
Please leave your answer below and share this blog with your friends.
Merissa Hanley is on a mission to spread love and peace to the world with her own self-discovery. Through this blog, Merissa shares her trials, tribulations, and resources which led Merissa back to herself.